什麼是暴力溝通？

如果“暴力”是指以造成傷害或損害的方式的行為，那麼我們在溝通中將有很多方式是暴力，比如在生氣時做出反應；評判他人，欺侮，種族歧視，責備，指責，排斥，說話時不聆聽，批評他人或自己，誹謗。使用政治的修辭，進行防衛或對人判斷誰是“好得/壞的”或什麼是“對的/錯的”，這些確實可以稱為“暴力溝通”。

非暴力溝通是4件事的整合:

1.意識：一套支持同理，協作，勇氣和真實生活的原則。

2.語言：瞭解話語如何促進連接或距離。

3.溝通：知道如何請求你想要的，如何傾聽別人的意見，以及如何朝著對所有人都有效的解決方案前進。

4.影響方式：與他人共享“權力”，而不是“權力凌駕於別人之上”。

NVC滿足我們做三件事的願望：

1.提高我們與選擇，意義和連接相處的能力

2.與自己和他人有同理心的連接，從而擁有更令人滿意的關係

3.資源共用，使每個人都能受益

hat is Violent Communication?

If “violent” means acting in ways that result in hurt or harm, then much of how we communicate—judging others, bullying, having racial bias, blaming, finger pointing, discriminating, speaking without listening, criticizing others or ourselves, name-calling, reacting when angry, using political rhetoric, being defensive or judging who’s “good/bad” or what’s “right/wrong” with people—could indeed be called “violent communication.”

What is Nonviolent Communication?

Nonviolent Communication is the integration of 4 things:

1. Consciousness

A set of principles that support living a life of compassion, collaboration, courage, and authenticity.

2. Language

Understanding how words contribute to connection or distance.

3. Communication

Knowing how to ask for what you want, how to hear others even in disagreement, and how to move forward towards solutions that work for all.

4. Means of influence

Sharing “power with others” rather than using “power over others”.

NVC serves our desire to do three things:

1.Increase our ability to live with choice, meaning, and connection

2.Connect empathically with self and others to have more satisfying relationships

3.Sharing of resources so everyone is able to benefit

資料來源：”Nonviolent Communication-A Language of life” 3rd.